Dramatic title isn’t it and may just be a little over-exaggeration but it’s not far from the truth. The latest lockdown in England has forced us to live separate lives for the first time in over 35 years.
When the UK government announced that November 2020 would see our second national lockdown we found our pre-planned housesits immediately cancelled and suddenly had nowhere to stay. We were due to finish our current housesitting stay in Milton Keynes on the 9th (The Poppy Appeal) but then nothing! Slightly worrying to say the least.
After a few calls and a lot of soul-searching we decided to take up the unbelievably kind offers of accommodation from our youngest son Ryan and our very dear friend Wendy. I would head off to Ryans to keep him company in his one-bed flat in Maidstone and Jo would stay at Wendys a few miles away.
Leaving the train at Maidstone East and waving goodbye as Jo headed on to Bearsted was reminiscent of one of those old black and white films where couples bid each other tearful goodbyes. It wasn’t a black and white situation but it was no less tearful. Not at all what we expected out travelling lives to have come to but these are seriously difficult times for everyone not just us.
Fifteen days of lockdown
Let’s get this straight though, we have both really enjoyed spending time with our respective landlords (that doesn’t sound right does it) and have loved spending so much time with these two wonderful people. They have unselfishly given up their homes and more importantly their time and we will never ever forget their kindness. We have both had such a laugh and a relaxed stay.
We have managed to meet up a couple of times to walk around Mote Park in Maidstone. It’s a huge park with a patchwork pattern of paths so we’ve been able to walk miles and miles and catch up on one anothers news. It’s lovely to meet up but always sad to say goodbye.
Bachelor Pad Living
Staying with Ryan has been fabulous as we get on so well and have so much in common but I have been very aware that I’ve invaded his single-man life. I have tried to be sensitive to how he lives and the way that he does things as it would be so easy to just blast in changing everything to ‘my way’. That’s not suggesting for a moment that I haven’t instigated change. I definitely have.
Healthy eating, regular exercise, sensible bedtimes and proper meals have all been major changes here which he does appear to like. It must be so tough living alone to be disciplined about all of these things, I’m not sure I could do it. I would be eating chocolate and crisps and never getting off the settee if it were me!
We take it turns to cook the evening meal and have both learnt a lot about preparing and cooking food with no real disasters on that front yet. We share the household chores like cleaning, shopping, washing up etc and I have tried to limit TV and Playstation time as it is so easy to waste whole days there. He has been fantastic company and there hasn’t been a single moment that I haven’t felt welcome and loved. It’s been brilliant.
Baking in Bearsted
A few miles away to the east of Maidstone Jo is having a whale of a time with Wendy and Dave. Facing the same issues of trying not to overly disturb their normal lives she has been walking daily, helping Wendy around the house, and of course baking. Wendy runs the Fat Cat Patisserie baking business so they have had a bellyful of laughs working together creating lots of beautiful cakes and pastries. Even delivered a few delicious sausage rolls to me and Ryan.
Being Apart
We are not a pair of love-struck teenagers and are very easy-going and rational about the whole lockdown situation, but we have missed being together dreadfully. Perhaps it’s worse because we have spent every single minute of every day together over the past 5 and a half years but we just feel like half of each of us is missing. I know it isn’t for long and looking back a few weeks will seem like nothing but it has been tough.
It’s such a strange feeling with just over a week left that we are counting the days until we’re together again but still really enjoying our respective stays and really appreciating the time it gives us with Wendy and Ryan respectively. So we will be sad to leave but delighted to be back together.
On to Canterbury
Luckily our forthcoming stay down in Canterbury looks like it is still going ahead so we are looking forward to that. All dependant on what Boris has to say this week regarding lockdowns and tiers of course but it looks good at the moment. Plus news of several vaccines being successfully developed is giving everyone hope that there is an end in sight to these most serious restrictions. I don’t think life will return to exactly the same as it was but we will find a new ‘normal’ eventually.
So it’s back to baking, kittens, and laughs for Jo and Wendy. And back to loud music, PS4 games, and football talk for me and Ryan. All great fun and we’re going to make the most of it whilst we can.
Keep safe and well, wherever you are.
09/11 – 24/11/2020
JWalking 
Oh dear this has gone on for such a long time. But I’m glad for you that your next posting seems to be coming together. Jo, whist you are in Bearsted, wave to the house standing on the corner of Hog Hill – Sandy Mount Farmhouse, that is where we used to live. We loved living there.
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Ah remember you telling us all about it Sarah, lots of great memories for you and Andrew down there. Hope you guys are keeping safe and well in the heart of Suffolk.
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You two are disgustingly cute!! Glad you are making the most of a bummer of a situation!
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We’re doing our best Pam, you always have to look on the bright side after all don’t you?
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Yassss!
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Wow, those sausage rolls look fantastic. Good luck over the next few weeks.
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They were so good, hopefully a few more will come our way before we leave if we behave ourselves.
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Glad that you two will soon be together again 🙂
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Thanks Andy, its been tough but just one of those things.
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So pleased your accommodation got sorted out and only separated, not too far apart from each other. Good news too that you’re off to Canterbury next so not so far to travel.
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We’re both enjoying our individual stays but obviously really missing each other. Looking forward to getting down to Canterbury next week.
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Got a bit tearful reading about your enforced separation! Glad you’ll be back together soon.
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It’s been the toughest thing we’ve done for a long time and we’re both desperate to get back together again.
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Whilst (I love this British term!) you were making a sausage roll out of your son Ryan for good times sake, Jo was busy making the real deal and delivering them to you and Ryan to enjoy during these stark present times.
Bravo you guys!
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Double rolls then! Jo’s sausage roll delivery was so much more appreciated than my bedroom attack.
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Hope to be supplying more of those yummy Fat Cat Patisserie sausage rolls if I can get out the door without a little kitten on my head!! Counting the days, minutes, hours and even seconds till we get back to a bit of JWalking together x
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Can’t wait to see you and get back together. Missing you dreadfully x
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Ryan’s expression is too funny! Glad you are getting back together soon.
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He’s a funny guy! We’re really looking forward to getting back together.
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It’s great you get one on one with your son though ..that would never have come about without Covid..”In every cloud…”
It will be good when it’s over though
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So true and loving every moment but missing my partner in crime.
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Of course .. hopefully it won’t happen again ..my cousin just said though he went into lockdown in tier 1 and came out to tier 3 ..people not doing what they should be doing!
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The whole tier thing is so divisive and difficult to understand.
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‘So it’s back to baking, kittens, and laughs for Jo and Wendy.’ Thank heavens for punctuation!
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That could have been awkward.
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That rather depends how you feel about kittens…
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Hope the announcement today was good news, though I seem to recall hearing Kent was still in Tier 3, so not sure if your Canterbury stay will still be allowed as I haven’t really looked at the new rules outside of London. Hope you can reunite soon, at any rate!
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Not the best news with Kent being in Tier 3 but I think the sit is still on so hopefully won’t impact us there. Before lockdown it was in Tier 1 and comes out two higher! Seems either unfair or that lockdown isn’t working.
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Crazy how the pandemic has changed all of our lives! My boyfriend and I went from too much time together in lockdown, to living apart for a few weeks during our move out of state, to me going back to work and him being alone all day. It’s just so hard to adjust!
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It’s turned everyone’s lives upside down hasn’t it? Just need to hope that things will improve soon.
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Such a sweet post…love how you are both making the best of the current situation. Hope the trip to Canterbury will go ahead for you. Stay safe!
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Thanks Linda. It’s looking like it’s still on so we’re looking forward to getting back together in a few days.
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Stay safe and out of harms way.
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So far so good. Keeping ourselves to ourselves and staying fit and healthy.
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I know how you feel. Me and my hubby would feel lost without each other. We love being together all the time.
Shame that Kent is tier 3. We moved to Cornwall from Hampshire in September so we are lucky to be in tier 1. We are always safe when we go out walking. May not see the family in Tier 2 at Christmas.
When are you house sitting in Cornwall? Lots of lovely coastal walks.
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No plans for any Cornwall housesits at the moment Sue, there aren’t many coming up at all at the moment. We’d love to get down there though so if you hear anything ……………
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This Mote Park looks nice in the photos! Might have to check that out sometime 🙂
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That Mote Park is a pretty nice place, you should try and find it sometime.
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Oh no Jonno!
I didn’t visit for a while, so i didn’t realise you’ve been forced to live apart for a while! i am glad you are enjoying it so far…but I hope the lockdown will end soon so you can be reunited.
p.s. I think Jo may have won this round staying near all those baked treats!!
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It’s not been too bad and you’re probably right about Jo getting the best deal with all that baking. I’ve loved my time with Ryan though.
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I guess you just need to get them to post some of the ready-baked treats. Then you’d have the best of both…
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Catching up a bit here mate but, yes, a little dramatic. At least you weren’t at different ends of the country. Still great to spend some proper, quality time with Ryan. And with those baked goods on supply I don’t think it would have been too bad.
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It was great to spend a few weeks in Ryans bachelor pad but missed my partner in crime.
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It seems both of you had great times (playing PS4 games 😄 and of course baking) … but in the end, the best place is with that one you share your life with.
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We did have a nice couple of weeks but it wasn’t the same so there were difficult moments.
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