A little under 4 years ago we made the decision to change our lives and head off into the sunset. The date was Sunday March 15th 2015 and the following day we both marched into our respective managers offices and gave in our notice. It was the beginning of our new JWalking world as we knew it. The next few weeks were spent in a flurry of organisation and planning for the adventures ahead.
We were met with a spectrum of different reactions from family, friends and colleagues as we revealed our intentions and took every one, however disparaging or critical, in good part. Everyone has their own ambitions and objectives in life, and we are all so very different so it was no wonder that we experienced such a myriad of opinions on the radical path we were embarking on.
However, there was one reaction that we did not take quite so readily. It was when we were told;
You are so lucky to be able to leave everything and just go!
This prompted a reaction then and still does. This post is actually in response to someone saying it again to me this week. It always makes me stop whatever I’m doing or thinking and reply in exactly the same way.
We’re not lucky. Anyone could do what we’ve done. Anyone can quit their jobs, sell their home, and give away their possessions if they wish. There is no luck involved whatsoever. It’s a choice.
Now we have never claimed that it was easy to do any of those things and everyone has varying priorities and responsibilities in their lives but ultimately it is still a choice. Do you want your nice big 4-wheel drive and your comfy sofa or do you want to go travelling? Do you want those 45 pairs of shoes and set of golf-clubs or do you want to become a vagabond? Yes or No. Easy questions with very difficult answers. We didn’t toss a coin to come to this decision.
We have never preached that anybody else should copy what we have done and certainly would not dream of claiming that our path is the right path. It’s just our path. We try desperately not to shove our way of life down anyone’s throats or show off about it. We are all different aren’t we?
So we aren’t lucky to be able to do this, we just chose our path and made a decision. That’s all.
There is another way that we have been more than lucky. Something that we always try to explain in discussions like this and something so important that I don’t particularly like using the ‘L’ word to describe it.
We are lucky in that both of us wanted to change our lives in this way at the same time.
There must be so many people that would like to just ‘go’ but have partners that don’t feel the same way. In fact on our trips we have met a lot of couples where one member claims to want to travel but can’t go because the other wouldn’t want to. That’s human nature surely as the majority of people desire a settled life. It’s our way of life that is so strange and unsettled. You can’t blame anyone for not understanding or not wanting to copy can you?
So I guess that we are lucky. Lucky to have each other and lucky that we both feel exactly the same way about life, travelling, and possessions.
If one of us changes their views in the future then we will stop and put down roots somewhere, no two ways about it. Where those roots might be and how we will live is another question!
But for now we are very happy to be living our serendipitous life together.
You can read all about the email that started this whole JWalking adventure and the subsequent planning that was required to organise changing our whole lives in a couple of our previous posts. Might help explain things a bit more I guess.
(sorry if this has seemed a bit like a rant, didn’t mean it come across like that. We both feel quite strongly about it and after the five millionth time of being asked thought we should get a reply out. We much prefer the word Serendipity to Luck but it doesn’t always seem to fit properly and serendipitous is just so hard to spell).